Friday, March 4, 2011

Share the conversation!

The simplest and one of the most difficult things to do in a conversation is to let other people speak. Very few of us understand the importance of listening. A lot of people feel that to get recognized they have to speak and contribute something, anything to the conversation. Very often than not people jump into a conversation to contribute by speaking, saying something, some words which really lengthens the conversation without adding anything to it. Yes, you need to express your opinion, sure, but let the other person finish first, let what he/she said sink in, before you speak. Best way to add to conversation, if you dont know about the subject being discussed, is to ask questions, rather than bluffing you know something and making a totally ridiculous statement. Ask questions as why they said what they said, why they feel so and why not other way. You can ask about the history of events, who the major players are etc. Dont bluff!
The biggest problem for a person who knows that the best way to contribute is by keeping healthy conversation is that when he sees a person cutting him in, he knows a person who cuts in has no understanding of what a good conversation is and he still has to deal with this person. Its like there is a piece of bread on the road, and the mad dog jumps on it to tear it apart. Good conversations are when you share it, enjoy ; not stealing it and tearing it apart.
How and when will people realize not to grab the conversation but to share it? I feel sorry for such folks!

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